Staying in love is a choice. Many years ago we realized that we were not dating each other. Yes, married couples should still date each other. Always date your spouse so that they know they are a priority to you. Even if you are super busy- have lots of pressure- lots of kids- make the time! Obviously there are things that take up our time – good things but we must always make special time for each other.
Date nights improve marriages. Studies have proven this- my own life has proven this- but don’t take our word on it- try it! Couples who go on frequent dates have an increase in happiness, commitment, communication, parenthood stability, and community. Studies say that married couples who devote time together at least once a week not only have lower divorce rates, but also increase the quality of their marriage. This should make you want to start dating your spouse more!
By opening up to each other on dates, spouses build strong bonds and begin talking heart to heart instead of hurt to hurt. This is important because every relationship has hard times but safe communication and strong commitment help us weather the storms. You are able to support each other and cheer each other on. These times of communication build a stronger emotional bond. “Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 AMP
Date nights are stress relievers. Date nights should be fun! Your spouse isn’t just there for you for the tough times, but for enjoyable times too. Relax together. Laugh together. Enjoy each other. Make memories together. You will never regret taking time for each other.
Date night is a fantastic way of connecting positively and enjoying each other’s company on a regular basis. It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate. You can have at home dates, fast food dates, picnics, strolling dates…. the list goes on. It is about spending time with each other- listening to each other’s heart. Really seeing each other!
When a couple spends time alone each week, their levels of happiness, joy, communication and even sexual satisfaction are more than three times higher than those who don’t spend that time together. WOW! That means you might be able to dramatically increase these important areas of your marriage by simply dating each other.
We personally try to date once a week. We also try to out spoil and serve each other everyday. This is not work but a beautiful investment.
The key to a great date is to make sure you focus on each other — don’t have conversations about finances, household responsibilities, problems with the kids or sensitive issues. Yes, you need to talk about these things, but not during a date. Date night is about enjoying each other.
A great date night will be full of playfulness and laughter. Ask your spouse questions to update your knowledge of then. Reminisce by retelling some of your favorite dating and marriage stories. Talking about your memorable events allows you to celebrate how far you’ve come as a couple. Focusing on first love with each other. It also helps you stay faith focused for your future together.
Why not take our Date Night Challenge? Go out on three dates in three weeks and watch how this will strengthen your marriage! By dating on a regular basis, your will be strengthened. Also, remember love never fails!
“Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. Love never stops loving…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 TPT
Allison Bramlett 