In true loving relationships there is nothing to hide. Strong relationships don’t keep secrets and they speak the truth in love. This truth must be spoken even if it makes you uncomfortable to say or hear. That is why the saying just follow your heart can get you in trouble. The Word of God says that the heart is deceitful, so you have to just follow the Word of God. The Word teaches us to have open communication without being defensive. You have to make Jesus your treasure and your heart will follow. Unrealistic and unspoken communication, unmet expectations are the cause of most conflicts and disagreements in relationships.
This means your Words are so important, but your tone is too. The majority of what we communicate comes from our tones, actions and body languages. This means the best time to work and invest in relationships is when things are good. The healing adventure can be long, emotional, and not quickly- it is a process. That means healing the hurt which causes defense in your relationships can be painful but worth the process. Your pain carries a purpose which will lead to healing in others lives. This means don’t give up too quickly. Disagreements should make you look at yourself first. You must look at the wound, the pain, the good, the wrong, and be transformed to look more like Love. Please keep pressing, keep healing, keep apologizing, keep forgiving, and keep rebuilding. So ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away. In every relationship it takes two to have emotional intimacy. Many times we are more invested than others or they may be more invested than you are. Yet, the greatest connections take place when both parties are invested. So, the strongest relationships communicate everything that is relevant to that relationship.
Coming to the realization that the quality of your relationships is the quality of your communication. If you treat someone at the end like you did in the beginning most relationships would never end. It is about connection and not just communication. That means that our relationships should be full of appreciation and our meditation must be on what so ever is good. Reminds me of Philippians 4:8.
Growth in everything is intentional. Seeing the difficulty we have with others is normally there because we don’t get along with ourself. The disagreement is there as a strategic attack from the enemy to take over your territory. The territory of your thoughts, emotions, time, and relationships. It is about the lives you will touch, businesses you will be part of, giving you can do, and fun you can have. Decide today that you are going to have breakthroughs in your relationships. You are not going to be defensive. You are not going to be caught in negative cycles. You are going to win. You are going to lead. You are going to impact and influence. It is time for Breakthrough. SMALL DISCIPLINES DONE CONSISTENTLY LEAD TO BIG RESULTS OVER TIME.
The small things no one sees that lead to the big things everyone wants.
Start today being intentional with communication and Stop doing what doesn’t grow you. Great friends and leaders impact mindsets, skillsets, toolsets, upsets, and resets. So, today what could you do in your relationships 10% less or more that would stretch you out of your relational comfort zone? Remember, Holy Spirit is our comforter for when we press our comfort zone- we have a helper and a guide as a stretching partner. The truth is GROWTH IS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE WE HAVE NEVER BEEN THERE BEFORE. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Today you are going to have courage to make new things happen in your relationships.
Allison Bramlett 