In the day and time we are living in, we cannot afford to water down the Gospel. More than ever, we are called to speak Truth in love. Culture celebrates tolerance, approval, and acceptance at all costs, but the Word of God calls us higher. Real love does not look the other way. Real love does not stay silent. Real love carries the courage to tell the truth, even when it’s unpopular, even when it costs us something. You can have love, or you can have acceptance, but you cannot stand for both.
When you ask someone to really love you, you’re not asking them to simply accept you or approve of everything you do. You’re inviting them into your life. You are inviting them into your story, your victories, and even your struggles. And that means real love will sometimes bring disagreement, correction, and even aggravation.
Love carries responsibility. If I see you walking toward danger, making a destructive choice, or drifting into unhealthy places, then love requires me to step up and speak truth. Speak even if it risks offending you. Silence in those moments is not love at all.
But when we ask for acceptance or approval, what we’re often asking for is an easy, conflict-free relationship. No challenge. No accountability. No pushback. And while that may feel comfortable for a time, it leaves no room for growth. Approval says, “Everything about you is fine. Do not change. Do not question it.” Acceptance says, “I’ll stay quiet no matter what.” Neither is true love.
To demand only acceptance or approval is to ask someone to stop caring. To stop investing. To step back from responsibility in the relationship. And that is not how God designed love to work.
Love, on the other hand, is deeply risky. It is willing to confront. It is willing to endure. It is willing to walk with you through the pain and mess, even when it costs something. That is why 1 Corinthians 13 tells us love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Notice it does not say love “accepts all things” or “approves of all things.” Instead, it calls love to something greater. Love is something that requires sacrifice and truth.
Acceptance leaves you stuck. Approval leaves you unchallenged. But love calls you higher.
Acceptance says, “I won’t bother you.” Approval says, “I’ll cheer you on no matter what.”
Love says, “I care too much to leave you here.”
And the greatest proof of this is Jesus. He did not simply accept or approve of us in our sin. He loved us enough to bear it, to endure it, and to redeem us out of it. That is why He declared, “I am the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6). That’s why Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
Love is always superior to acceptance or approval. And if we want to follow Jesus, we must be willing to choose the harder, riskier, truer path. The path to love enough to tell the truth. At the end of the day, the Word of God is the only truth. Culture shifts, opinions change, feelings come and go, but God’s Word never fails. It is the standard that defines love, the foundation that sustains life, and the light that guides us through every season. If we are going to love well, we must love according to the Word, because real love and real truth can never be separated.
Allison Bramlett 