Relationship breakthroughs normally happen at breaking points. We are given the opportunity to have a breakthrough or a breakdown. Most of this is happening when disagreements are present in our relationships. It is so important to learn to disagree without being defensive. All Covenant relationships that last are set on a foundation of commitment. A lifetime of commitment and pursuit. We may disagree on issues but must always agree to never quit. We can show support and disapproval in words and actions. It takes more than just words to show honor and respect to others. Actions must be used and words should align with them.
In a disagreement there is normally a default response which is similar to our trauma responses. People tend to fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Fight is when we have aggressive outburst that are negative and critical. Flight is when we run away from the disagreement by escaping into work, hobby, activity, and being obsessive compulsive. Freeze is when we have a brain fog, depressions, isolation, and putting off making decisions. Fawn is when we people please, are codependent, lack of boundaries, and avoid conflict. Sometimes we may demonstrate a mixture of these reactions. The point is think about what it is like to be in a disagreement with you.
The Word of God wants to help you get unstuck, set goals, cast vision, move toward your God purpose, and live out your potential. It helps you work through your trauma, pain, disagreements and process healing, resolve issues, and communicate without defense. The Word gives you emotional and physical breakthrough, get revelation of God’s Love, gain wisdom and understanding. You can SPEAK TRUTH in LOVE.
Great relationship and breakthroughs happen not just based on desire but also emotional disciplines. It is so important to learn what you are dealing with is not who you are. Your confession locks in your identity and your confession over others is how you identify them. The person with the most hope actually has the most influence. Remember IT IS NOT WHAT OTHERS CALL YOU, IT IS WHAT YOU ANSWER TO that identifies you. So negative minds, words, and conversations do not give you a positive life. Your conquering is how you answer your calling. This means your best relationships bring out the best in you. BEST FRIENDS is not just one person but it is the group of people that influence your life the BEST.
Obstacles in you relationships should not prevent connection but should make connection more powerful and purposeful. Obstacles are opportunities to prepare us for more. Be yourself. Own your zone. Be present. Have courageous communication by speaking the Truth in Love.
Allison Bramlett 