Tag: relationships

Choose To Set Your Mind

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

When you became a Christ lover and believer, everything changed. Even if your feelings and thoughts did not catch up immediately. Paul reminds us in Colossians 3, “Since you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is.”

That single statement carries the power to reframe your entire life. You are no longer bound by the world’s old patterns, priorities, and thought systems. You have been resurrected into a new way of living and with that comes a new way of thinking.

A Call to Intention

Paul gives two clear commands. We must set our hearts and set our minds on things above. These are not passive statements. The word set implies discipline, direction, and decision. Just as a thermostat does not change the temperature until someone sets it, your thoughts won’t drift toward heaven by accident.

You have to decide what fills your mind. Romans 12:2 tells us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” This is an ongoing process not a one-time event. Every day, we get to reset our focus and renew our thinking through God’s Word.

Setting your heart and mind on things above is an act of worship — it’s saying, “Lord, You have my attention. You direct my thoughts. You lead my desires.”

The Battle for the Mind

Let us be honest it is easy to let our thoughts settle into the dust of earthly thinking: worry, comparison, materialism, fear of man, or self-preservation. The world is loud. Screens, schedules, and headlines constantly shout for our attention.

But our faith will never soar if our thoughts remain tethered to the ground. Scripture calls us upward not into escapism, but into alignment with heaven. Romans 8:6 says, “The mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.”

When we think from a heavenly perspective, we do not ignore our responsibilities, but we simply see them differently. Every obstacle becomes an opportunity to reflect Christ. Every conversation becomes a chance to share His love. Every challenge becomes a place for His peace to rule.

A New Way to Live

Romans 6:4 declares, “Just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.” That new life is not just about behavior, it is about belief.

We start seeing through God’s lens. We remember that our worth is not tied to performance or appearance but is anchored in being “hidden with Christ in God.” You are not your past, your failure, you are in Christ, and He is your life. Check out Galatians 2:20 too!

That phrase changes everything: “Christ, who is your life.” Jesus is not just part of your life, He is your life. The more that truth roots itself in your heart, the more your mind shifts. You will see yourself through His eyes forgiven, chosen, and loved. And you will begin to see others not as interruptions or irritations, but as image-bearers of God’s grace.

Anchored in the Eternal

When you set your heart and mind on things above, peace begins to settle in. You anchor yourself to what is unchanging, holy, and eternal.

Earthly things, both the blessings and the burdens, are temporary. But things above? Those are forever: Love. Grace. Truth. Holiness. God’s promises.

These are the truths that stabilize your mind and direct your heart.

A Daily Reset

So today, before the world has a chance to fill your mind, you must set it yourself.

Before the worries come, before comparison creeps in, before distractions flood your day choose to lift your thoughts higher.

Let your prayer echo Romans 12:1–2:

“Lord, I offer my body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to You. I refuse to conform to this world. Transform me by the renewing of my mind.”

Every time you set your heart and mind on Him, you are aligning with your true identity, the one raised, redeemed, and renewed in Christ.

Ask yourself What’s been setting the temperature of my thoughts lately? The world, or the Word?

Heaven is calling. Set your heart and mind there today. 💗

Walk In Truth

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

As a woman, a mother, and a grandmother, my heart aches for the next generation. Culture is pulling at the hearts and minds of our young women, telling them to search for identity in shifting feelings instead of the solid truth of God’s Word. But we were never meant to be defined by culture, but we were created to be defined by our Creator. It is time for women of every age to rise up, remember who we are in Christ, and walk boldly in His truth.

Our culture is confused about identity, redefining womanhood and erasing the beauty of God’s design. Surveys reveal that nearly one-third of Gen Z women now identify as LGBTQ. But God’s Word speaks a better truth. We are made in His image, created male and female, with divine purpose and identity.

Today’s younger women are growing up in a culture that is shaping their choices, their identity, and even their understanding of love and truth. Social media, entertainment, and peer pressure are influencing them more than the voice of God, and as a result, many are building their lives on shifting sand instead of the solid rock of His Word. This is why it is urgent for us to rise up as women of faith and show them a different way. We must model what it looks like to live rooted in Scripture, secure in Christ, and unshaken by cultural trends. If we do not, the world will continue to define them, but if we do, the Word of God will transform them. 

When God created woman, He called her “ezer kenegdo”, not a passive assistant, but a strong help, a warrior counterpart, an allie, a lifesaver. Women are not an afterthought; we are a vital part of God’s design to reflect His image and partner in advancing His Kingdom.

To rise up as women of God means:

• Rejecting culture’s confusion and embracing the unchanging truth of Scripture.

• Walking in our calling as allies and warriors, bringing strength to our families, churches, and communities.

• Living as daughters of the King, secure in our worth, fearless in our faith, and fruitful in our witness.

As Lisa Bevere often says, “God did not save you to tame you. He saved you to unleash you.” This generation does not need women who mirror culture; it needs women who mirror Christ.

Being a Godly woman is not about shrinking back, instead it is about rising up. It is about knowing who we are in Christ and helping others find their true identity in Him. When women live as God designed, marriages are strengthened, families are healed, and future generations are secured in faith.

We must step forward in faith, fearless and fruitful, carrying the light of Jesus into a dark world speaking Truth in Love.  Like Esther, who risked everything to save her people, we too are called to courage in this hour, for such a time as this. (Esther 4:14) God has placed us here, not by accident, but with assignment. We must stand for truth, to intercede for our families, and to be voices of deliverance in our generation.

Like Deborah, who judged with wisdom, led with authority, and mothered Israel in a time of war, we are called to bring both justice and nurture. God is raising up mothers in the Spirit. Women who war for their children, their homes, and their communities, and who call forth victory when others shrink back.

Like Mary, the mother of Jesus, we must be willing to say, “Let it be to me according to Your word” (Luke 1:38). When God speaks, we carry His promises and bring forth His purposes, no matter how impossible they may seem.

Like the woman at the well, who encountered Jesus and then ran to tell her town, sparking the very first revival, we too must boldly testify of the Living Water we have received. Our stories, our transformation, and our testimony of Christ can ignite whole communities.

Like Priscilla, who alongside her husband Aquila taught the Word of God with clarity and authority, women today are called to disciple, to teach, and to train others in the ways of the Lord. God is raising up women teachers, leaders, and equipers who carry His Word with accuracy and fire.

These women remind us that we are not sidelined in God’s plan, but we are central to it. The same Spirit who empowered Esther, Deborah, Mary, the Samaritan woman, and Priscilla is alive in us today. We are called to courage, to mothering, to obedience, to witness, and to teaching. And just as they shaped history, so can we, if we rise up in the power of the Word of God and the truth of who we are in Christ.

Rise up, women of God. You are image bearers, warriors, and helpmates created to stand strong, speak Truth, and shine light in the darkness.

Truth In Love

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

In the day and time we are living in, we cannot afford to water down the Gospel. More than ever, we are called to speak Truth in love. Culture celebrates tolerance, approval, and acceptance at all costs, but the Word of God calls us higher. Real love does not look the other way. Real love does not stay silent. Real love carries the courage to tell the truth, even when it’s unpopular, even when it costs us something. You can have love, or you can have acceptance, but you cannot stand for both.

When you ask someone to really love you, you’re not asking them to simply accept you or approve of everything you do. You’re inviting them into your life. You are inviting them into your story, your victories, and even your struggles. And that means real love will sometimes bring disagreement, correction, and even aggravation.

Love carries responsibility. If I see you walking toward danger, making a destructive choice, or drifting into unhealthy places, then love requires me to step up and speak truth. Speak even if it risks offending you. Silence in those moments is not love at all.

But when we ask for acceptance or approval, what we’re often asking for is an easy, conflict-free relationship. No challenge. No accountability. No pushback. And while that may feel comfortable for a time, it leaves no room for growth. Approval says, “Everything about you is fine. Do not change. Do not question it.” Acceptance says, “I’ll stay quiet no matter what.” Neither is true love.

To demand only acceptance or approval is to ask someone to stop caring. To stop investing. To step back from responsibility in the relationship. And that is not how God designed love to work.

Love, on the other hand, is deeply risky. It is willing to confront. It is willing to endure. It is willing to walk with you through the pain and mess, even when it costs something. That is why 1 Corinthians 13 tells us love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Notice it does not say love “accepts all things” or “approves of all things.” Instead, it calls love to something greater. Love is something that requires sacrifice and truth.

Acceptance leaves you stuck. Approval leaves you unchallenged. But love calls you higher.

Acceptance says, “I won’t bother you.” Approval says, “I’ll cheer you on no matter what.”

Love says, “I care too much to leave you here.”

And the greatest proof of this is Jesus. He did not simply accept or approve of us in our sin. He loved us enough to bear it, to endure it, and to redeem us out of it. That is why He declared, “I am the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6). That’s why Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).

Love is always superior to acceptance or approval. And if we want to follow Jesus, we must be willing to choose the harder, riskier, truer path. The path to love enough to tell the truth. At the end of the day, the Word of God is the only truth. Culture shifts, opinions change, feelings come and go, but God’s Word never fails. It is the standard that defines love, the foundation that sustains life, and the light that guides us through every season. If we are going to love well, we must love according to the Word, because real love and real truth can never be separated.

My dad, Pastor Gregory Pope showed me this image and I hope none of us have dust on our Bibles!

Obedience Wins Battles

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

Obedience is one of those words that makes us all a little uncomfortable. It means surrender, it means trust, and it often means walking forward when the outcome doesn’t make sense. Judges 20 tells a story that is both difficult and powerful. It is one that shows us obedience isn’t always about quick victories, but about faithfulness to God no matter what.

The story in Judges 20 begins with a shocking and tragic event. A woman is abused and killed, and her body is sent in pieces to the twelve tribes of Israel. The people are outraged and unite to confront the sin within the tribe of Benjamin. Israel goes to battle, but here’s the twist: even though God told them to go, they suffer heavy losses. There were 22,000 the first day, and 18,000 the second in losses.
It wasn’t because of hidden sin this time (like Achan at Ai in Joshua 7). We must be obedient regardless of the outcomes. Obedience is about trust. There are times that obedience does not look like an immediate victory. 

It’s easy to obey when you expect things to turn out well. It’s harder when obedience looks like defeat. That’s where faith grows. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego understood this when they stood before the fiery furnace and declared, “Our God is able to deliver us, but even if He doesn’t, we will not bow” (Daniel 3:17-18). Obedience is not tied to results. It’s tied to love. Jesus said, “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (John 14:15). Our obedience is the proof of our love.

Disobedience clutters our souls. It hides things away, leaving us restless and weak. But obedience clears the conscience, brings peace of mind, and strengthens our hearts. That’s why Samuel told Saul, “To obey is better than sacrifice” (1 Samuel 15:22). Saul tried to excuse his partial obedience, but God doesn’t bless our compromises. Partial obedience is disobedience. Saul may not have lost his position but he did lose the anointing. A Clear Conscience and a Strong Heart come from walking in Obedience to God’s Word. True obedience guards our hearts and minds. It keeps us aligned with God’s Word even when circumstances scream otherwise.

Obedience is never just about us. Abraham’s obedience to offer Isaac released blessings for generations (Genesis 22:18). Jonathan’s obedience to step out with his armor-bearer inspired a whole army to rise up (1 Samuel 14). (Go listen to my full sermon on this from Wednesday, August 20th at Covenant Church it dives into Jonathan’s story and how your story helps others)

Psalm 25 promises that if we fear the Lord, our soul will prosper and our descendants will inherit the land. Your “yes” to God influences your children, your grandchildren, and even the atmosphere around you. Your obedience today becomes the inheritance of tomorrow. 

So here is the question: Will you keep obeying when the results aren’t what you wanted? Will you get back up after a loss and ask God, “Do I go again?”

That’s what Israel did after two devastating defeats. On the third day, God gave them the victory. Obedience always pays off! If it does not pay off immediately, it will eternally! 

Rebellion says, “I want control.” Faith says, “Jesus, You are Lord.” We obey not because of what God can do for us, but because of who He is. Jesus is our Lord, our King, our Savior.

Don’t withdraw from the battle until the outcome is good. God’s Word is true. His promises are sure. And He is always worth our obedience. Your “yes” is a shout that echoes through eternity.

Fight for each other and not with each other!

Blurry Vision

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

When You’re Hurting, Your Vision Gets Blurry. Let Jesus Lead the Way

When you’re hurting, fearful, or frustrated, your view of reality becomes distorted. Like looking through a cracked lens or driving through foggy glass, everything seems off—even if it’s really not. Hurt warps interpretation. Fear clouds judgment. Frustration filters facts.

You begin hearing through the filter of your pain and speaking from the reservoir of your wounds. What you think someone said or meant is twisted by your internal turmoil. It’s not because you’re weak; it’s because you’re human. But this is the very moment when your soul needs clarity, not confirmation.

When pain rises, we tend to run. We run to distractions, to comfort food, to numbing behaviors, or to people who will agree with us rather than challenge us. But what if the escape isn’t out there? What if healing begins in stillness?

“Be still, and know that I am God…” – Psalm 46:10

It’s in the stillness that the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit can be heard. He whispers truth when everything else is shouting lies. But we have to want to hear Him. We have to invite Him in.

When you’re in pain, you can’t always trust your own interpretations. That’s when you must lean harder into the Word of God and the people of God—the ones who will lovingly speak truth, not just validate your emotions.

“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” – Jeremiah 17:9
“The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.” – Proverbs 12:15

The truth is: most of the time, we don’t want Jesus until we feel like we need Him. We want Him to fix things, but not necessarily lead everything. But friend, we need Him for everything. And more than anything, He wants to be with us—invited, welcomed, central, and not just an emergency contact.

Let Jesus be your:

  • Peace in panic
  • Wisdom in confusion
  • Counselor in chaos
  • Voice when your emotions want to text or post something you’ll regret

Even when you’re self-sabotaging, He’s there saying, “Follow Me. Turn around. Be still. Get up.”

“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” – Isaiah 30:21

He is always present, but He permeates our lives when we give Him permission.

“Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in…” – Revelation 3:20
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” – Hebrews 13:5
“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:20

So if your vision is blurry today, if your heart is hurting or your mind is fearful—don’t trust your own interpretation. Don’t run to what numbs you. Run to the One who heals.

Jesus is near. Invite Him in. Ask the Holy Spirit to speak louder than the noise. And let the Word of God—not your wounds—determine what you believe, what you say, what you text, and what you do.

He’s not mad at you. He’s madly in love with you. And He’s with you—even in this.

Filled for More: Fire, Fruit, and the Mission of Pentecost

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

We just celebrated Pentecost Sunday a few weeks ago and this has been on my heart to share. Pentecost was the day everything changed.

It wasn’t just a holy moment—it was a holy takeover. Heaven didn’t merely brush against earth; it took up residence inside of us. God’s power didn’t stay locked in the upper room or reserved for a select few—it was poured out on all flesh. The church wasn’t simply born—it was empowered. And for the first time in history, the presence of God didn’t just visit—it filled. And stayed.

That’s the miracle of Pentecost:
God in us. Power upon us. A mission before us.

But somewhere along the way, many of us settled for a moment instead of embracing the mission. We’ve confused being Spirit-filled with having a spiritual experience. We shout, we dance, we feel the fire—but the Holy Spirit came to change us, not just move us.

🔥 More Than a Tongue—A Transformed Life

Yes, the gift of tongues is biblical. But Pentecost was never just about what came out of their mouths—it was about what got planted in their hearts. Being filled with the Spirit means bearing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23):
Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

We say we’re Spirit-filled—but do we still:

  • Lash out or shut down?
  • Get easily offended?
  • Gossip or blame others?
  • Lack self-control?
  • Excuse sin instead of confess it?

Paul didn’t pull punches when he said,

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” – 1 Corinthians 13:1

In other words—don’t just make noise. Be the voice of Heaven.

🔥 Stay On Fire—Live Transformed

Romans 12:2 commands us to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Pentecost wasn’t meant to be a one-time flame—it’s supposed to ignite a lifelong fire.

So, keep your first love. Stay on fire. Don’t make excuses for your sin—or your excuses. Let there be fire on your head and fruit in your life.

🔥 Spirit-Filled = Spirit-Formed

The Holy Spirit doesn’t bulldoze—He guides.

He doesn’t just give you power—He produces character.
He helps you:

  • Forgive when you’d rather stay mad
  • Speak Heaven when criticism is easier
  • Walk in holiness, not hype
  • Align your life with Heaven’s version of your story

Remember, the disciples didn’t just feel something—they spoke something. And not their own words—but God’s.

Let’s speak Heaven too. Not complaints. Not control. Not criticism.
Your tone is your testimony.

If your family fears your tone more than they feel your love—something’s off.
If your words stir fear instead of faith—it’s time to reset.

Ask yourself:

  • Are my words building or breaking?
  • Am I stirring love or stirring strife?
  • Am I sounding like Heaven or sounding like my flesh?

🔥 Filled for More Than a Moment

Paul urged Timothy to stir up the gift (2 Timothy 1:6).
Don’t live off yesterday’s fire. Keep yourself stirred. You weren’t filled for a moment—you were filled for a mission:

To change your home.
To change your marriage.
To shape your children.
To impact your community.
To be the Church, not just attend it or ignore it.

🔥 Ask for Fire AND Fruit

Don’t settle for either/or. Ask for both.Ask for fire that ignites your passion.
Ask for fruit that sustains your witness.

Let the Spirit of God:

  • Fill you with power
  • Guide you in truth
  • Form you in character
  • Finish the good work He started in you (Philippians 1:6)

Because Pentecost is not just a day on the calendar—it’s the fuel for your everyday life.

So today, stir up the gift.
Speak with Heaven’s voice.
Live with Heaven’s character.
Let fire fall—and let fruit grow.

You were filled for more. Let the mission begin.

Developing forgiveness

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

My greatest dream is to have children that have children that will serve Jesus whole heartedly! And that dream is becoming a reality. I believe forgiveness is a key to that!

The enemy doesn’t care about your convictions as long as you leave the character of Christ to defend it. Your opinion will tell you that you have a right to your wrong beliefs. (If it ain’t what the Word says it is a lie) Father God doesn’t have opinions or suggestions- He is right and has commandments. 🔥 Ephesians 4:28-32!

“So then, brace up and reinvigorate and set right your slackened and weakened and drooping hands and strengthen your feeble and palsied and tottering knees, [Isa. 35:3.] And cut through and make firm and plain and smooth, straight paths for your feet [yes, make them safe and upright and happy paths that go in the right direction], so that the lame and halting [limbs] may not be put out of joint, but rather may be cured. Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it–”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭12‬-‭15‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

Bitterness is undeveloped murder… it is murder in diapers. Bitterness defiles me and everyone under my influence. I don’t think there would be a bitter resentful judgmental person in the universe if we saw how undeserving we are.

I believe God hates whatever interferes with unconditional love. If you eat the meal of judgement, offense, criticism and accusation you will become defiled because of the bitterness. There is no liberty for us outside of forgiving! Philippians 4:8- when I struggle with bad thoughts or accusations or offense I have to proactively attack that by replacing every one of those thoughts with Christ thoughts. I can’t afford of thinking about things that can set up roots inside of me. Bitter thoughts are never okay- they imprison you. Let’s walk in forgiveness! Let’s carry restoration! We cannot afford to be influenced by offense. We are a redemptive army- overcomers. Believing for us to be people that know how to forgive and love unconditionally! If we truly took the time to wash someone’s feet and understand why they walk like they do then we would not be offended but would be moved with compassion. Washing someone else’s feet washes the offense off of you. I am praying for grace that helps us be ministers of restoration- serving and loving others well. Holy Spirit help us in every environment and situation to be an instrument of forgiveness in Jesus name.

Stay thankful!

My granddaughter and me
My son, daughter in love, and granddaughter
My hubby, son in love, daughter, grandsons, and soul sister
My big love with the little grand loves!

rebuilding

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

Here is a little secret- knowing how to forgive past hurts and let them go is a critical tool to live out your divine destiny. Forgiving and letting go is one of the main keys in growing strong relationships and being emotionally and physically healthy.

Yes, there are some wrong-doings (sins) that are so harmful that the relationships can not survive, forgiveness can still survive and cause you to thrive in life. Forgiveness helps you move forward. When we are unforgiving it takes a physical and emotional toll on us. Here are some nuggets to help you forgive.

You have to be unlocked and receptive to forgiveness. It is a choice and one you must do by faith and with the help of Holy Spirit. This means you make a decision to walk in forgiveness. The thoughts that you have must be filtered through God’s Word so that you can live in Truth. Self-Control has to be put into play so that you can refrain from wrong thoughts, emotions, and actions. Accepting that your why doesn’t have to be answered for the reason of the hurtful and harmful behaviors. This does not mean you are approving or accepting the behavior but you are accepting forgiveness.

Close relationships need forgiveness to flourish. Everyone makes mistakes, and we all need to forgive and be forgiven. It is true that no healthy relationship can endure for a long period of time without forgiveness. (marriages, family relationships, friendships, partnerships… all need forgiveness) Colossians 3:12-13 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.“

I know personally that when I see God’s love for me, and my brokenness apart from Him, I can truly love and forgive others. Many times we are good at taking the gift of forgiveness but not as good as giving it. Forgiveness moves us into a place of enduring love. Love that is planted in God and not just our emotions. Love and Forgiveness go together. Father God’s love can never be exhausted. Forgiveness is a part of love that strengthens, builds, and restores.

Forget about it

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

Here is some truth for you. What really matters is that you obey Father God. This is the key to living the blessed life, walking in freedom, finding your true identity, and having His power and authority. Your own opinion and reputation doesn’t count, so forget about those things and focus on Jesus. We delay our divine destiny and victories by walking in disobedience, and partial obedience is still disobedience. We have been made more than conquerors. If you read your Bible, which I highly recommend, then you will realize that since the world began Father God has been looking for those that live by faith and obey His Word. These two things are how you live the abundant life now. Your life will become a walking billboard of His mercy, love, grace and power. You must realize that you are a billboard already. The question is what does your billboard promote? Just like He wanted to lead the children of Israel into the promise land, He still wants that for you today. The issue is that we as people have not changed much and the same things that kept them from having promise land living stop us now. They dealt with unbelief just like we do. Yes, I know if you are reading this that you believe in God most likely. The Israelites believed in God and had seen Him do signs and wonders with their very own eyes. They believed in Him, but they did not really believe what Father God said. When He told them about the Promise Land and that He would give it to them (Exodus 23), they became afraid and doubted. If they truly believed God it would not have mattered how big the giants were, they would have obeyed His Word. Unbelief makes you refuse to do what the Word of God says! This unbelief always leads to disobedience. We begin to try to figure things out on our own instead of trusting His Word. I am personally thankful that God doesn’t require me to be smart, He just ask for us to listen and obey. Just know today that when God calls you to do something, He is with you! You have to forget about what culture says, your feelings say, others say- and only remember what God says. You are anointed for this time!

Relationship breakthroughs

Posted on by Allison Bramlett

Relationship breakthroughs normally happen at breaking points. We are given the opportunity to have a breakthrough or a breakdown. Most of this is happening when disagreements are present in our relationships. It is so important to learn to disagree without being defensive. All Covenant relationships that last are set on a foundation of commitment. A lifetime of commitment and pursuit. We may disagree on issues but must always agree to never quit. We can show support and disapproval in words and actions. It takes more than just words to show honor and respect to others. Actions must be used and words should align with them.

In a disagreement there is normally a default response which is similar to our trauma responses. People tend to fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Fight is when we have aggressive outburst that are negative and critical. Flight is when we run away from the disagreement by escaping into work, hobby, activity, and being obsessive compulsive. Freeze is when we have a brain fog, depressions, isolation, and putting off making decisions. Fawn is when we people please, are codependent, lack of boundaries, and avoid conflict. Sometimes we may demonstrate a mixture of these reactions. The point is think about what it is like to be in a disagreement with you.

The Word of God wants to help you get unstuck, set goals, cast vision, move toward your God purpose, and live out your potential. It helps you work through your trauma, pain, disagreements and process healing, resolve issues, and communicate without defense. The Word gives you emotional and physical breakthrough, get revelation of God’s Love, gain wisdom and understanding. You can SPEAK TRUTH in LOVE.

Great relationship and breakthroughs happen not just based on desire but also emotional disciplines. It is so important to learn what you are dealing with is not who you are. Your confession locks in your identity and your confession over others is how you identify them. The person with the most hope actually has the most influence. Remember IT IS NOT WHAT OTHERS CALL YOU, IT IS WHAT YOU ANSWER TO that identifies you. So negative minds, words, and conversations do not give you a positive life. Your conquering is how you answer your calling. This means your best relationships bring out the best in you. BEST FRIENDS is not just one person but it is the group of people that influence your life the BEST.

Obstacles in you relationships should not prevent connection but should make connection more powerful and purposeful. Obstacles are opportunities to prepare us for more. Be yourself. Own your zone. Be present. Have courageous communication by speaking the Truth in Love.